{"id":1217,"date":"2009-11-26T22:51:07","date_gmt":"2009-11-27T03:51:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patellawoffices.com\/blog\/?p=205"},"modified":"2009-11-26T22:51:07","modified_gmt":"2009-11-27T03:51:07","slug":"estate-planning-discussions-difficult-emotional-and-stressful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/general-estate-planning-and-probate\/estate-planning-discussions-difficult-emotional-and-stressful\/","title":{"rendered":"Estate Planning Discussions: difficult, emotional and stressful"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!-- \/PUBDATE --><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Discussions with parents or other family members regarding estate planning  can at times be difficult, emotional and stressful.<\/p><\/div>\n<p><!--\nAC =\n--><!-- GRAY BOX ARTICLE CONTENT--><!-- \/GRAY BOX ARTICLE CONTENT--><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>This discomfort, however, cannot compare to the financial pain felt by family  members whose parents die without having implemented estate planning strategies.  Relying upon state governments to decide the management and distribution of our  assets and property can be an unsettling experience. Probate costs and the time  delays associated with municipal court systems may leave heirs financially  unstable.<\/p>\n<p>Even those individuals with existing estate plans should review them to  ensure they take into account recent tax law changes. We suggest that our  clients initiate a family discussion of these topics, or update any plan that is  already in place, sooner rather than later.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Broaching the topic<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Perhaps the most challenging task, especially with elderly parents or  relatives, is initiating the discussion. Some may perceive it as the first step  toward giving up control over their personal affairs. To assuage this concern,  we may emphasize that estate planning is about providing the estate owner more  control, not less. Legal documents such as wills and trusts are tools that allow  us to control the management and distribution of our assets both during life and  at death. There is perhaps no way to gain greater control over our assets than  to implement time-proven, legal estate planning strategies such as personal  trusts.<\/p>\n<p>To ensure an effective discussion:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Choose a comfortable setting, arrange a convenient time and location, and  eliminate, or at least limit, distractions.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Suggest a group discussion with siblings or other family members.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Stress the importance of the topic and encourage an open and honest airing  of issues and goals.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Express concern for the elderly relatives&#8217; future well being and emphasize  the need to implement an effective estate plan that will serve their needs and  wishes.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Use current books or articles on the topic to illustrate the benefits of  having an estate plan and successful planning strategies. These may include  articles on the consequences of not having a sufficient estate plan in  place.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 If appropriate, schedule more than one meeting.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Current transfer tax<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Federal law imposes gift and estate taxes on the transfer of property. The  current law provides each individual with gift and estate exemption amounts that  allow property up to a certain value to be transferred tax free.<\/p>\n<p>In 2009, the estate tax exclusion amount is $3,500,000 which is inclusive of  the $1,000,000 lifetime exclusion amount for gift taxes. The top rate of gift  and estate taxes in 2009 is 45 percent. In 2010, the estate tax is scheduled to  be repealed, while taxes on lifetime gifts will remain in effect with a  $1,000,000 exclusion amount and a top-rate of 35 percent. However, unless  Congress acts to extend the law, in 2011 estate and gift tax exclusion amounts  and rates will revert back to those in effect in 2001.<\/p>\n<p>These issues should be discussed &#8211; and understood &#8211; by all family members and  your tax and legal advisors in order to devise an effective estate planning  strategy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tools and Options<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>For a successful discussion of estate planning options, the family should  understand the basic tools available.<\/p>\n<p>These include:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Will &#8211; This is a legally executed document that outlines and directs how  and to whom a person wants his or her property distributed after death.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Living will &#8211; This advance directive gives instructions to doctors and  hospitals regarding the nature and extent of care a person wants in the event of  permanent incapacity.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Durable power of attorney for property &#8211; This designates someone to act on  a person&#8217;s behalf with respect to their financial affairs if he or she is  physically or mentally incapacitated.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Durable power of attorney for health care &#8211; This appoints a person to make  health care decisions in the event that someone is too ill to make a  decision.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Living trust &#8211; This is a legal arrangement that enables an individual to  transfer money or other assets to a trustee, who holds legal title for the  benefit of that individual and his or her beneficiaries.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, parents and relatives may want to make available (perhaps to a  trusted family member) the details and location of their financial accounts.  These would include the location of bank, brokerage, and credit card accounts,  as well as insurance policies (including health, life, annuity and long-term  care). Also, it is important to know the location of tax returns, birth  certificates and safe deposit boxes and keys. A name and phone list of key  financial contacts such as financial advisers, lawyers, accountants and  insurance agents should also be made available.<\/p>\n<p>It is a delicate topic, but parents or other relatives may require guidance  in coordinating an estate plan. Parents and relatives should consult their own  tax advisor or estate planning legal advisor prior to implementing their estate  plan to determine what is appropriate to their specific circumstances. Delaying  these discussions can lead to significant family hardship and a loss of highly  prized and hard-earned assets. But the strategies that follow a successful  discussion can avoid this and provide peace of mind for family members.<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Delaying these discussions can lead to significant family hardship and a loss of highly prized and hard-earned assets. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_daextam_enable_autolinks":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[14,29,16,30],"class_list":["post-1217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general-estate-planning-and-probate","tag-2009-estate-tax","tag-estate-planning-errors","tag-nj-estate-tax-2009","tag-top-mistakes-estate-planning"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1217","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1217"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1217\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1217"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1217"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patellawoffices.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1217"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}